I believe I was stuck on stupid from 1974-2005 about this soul mate thing.
Count girls. That is a total of 31 years. Some of you are not even 31 years old yet.
So take it from an old gal who travelled the romantic yellow brick road for a long time, who realized on the day that she had her final divorce papers in her hand from her third marriage, that the search was over. I had an “ah ha” moment of ” Oh well, I guess there was no soul mate, no Prince Charming for me after all!!!!.
In 2005, I was a ripe young age of 62, about to receive my social security!
But that’s nothin when I share my mother’s story. My mother will be 90 in a few months. At the age of 87, she had me searching the web for HER prince charming, a man by the name of Charles Collins, the lost love that got away and married somebody else!. I searched diligently with no results . He is either dead or in a nursing home. That is not all, My mother’s sister Olga was married for more than 50 years, yet while a widow, she hit 80 and met a fabulous, good-looking man about her own age and it looked like life begins at 80. Unfortunately, he died of a massive heart attack on Thanksgiving and she was so grieved, she succumbed to cancer and died a month later.
Now when I was a young, unsaved woman in my early 20’s , I was quite cynical and so I protected my heart by having affairs with married men. My rationale was this. Men are gonna cheat and knowing my temper, I’d probably kill a cheater in a momentary rage. Back in the day, I was not a sistah to mess with. A married man was safe back then because I reasoned to myself “he is not cheating on me.” He is cheating on his wife so I don’t have to kill him and I can keep myself out of jail. I was successful. Then just before I became a Christian, I was set up on the Prince Charming thing by a psychic astrologer whose name was Norvelle. Norvelle sold me a bill of goods and I bought into it, hook line and sinker for the next 31 years. Now that, Dear Heart, is being STUCK ON STUPID BY a demon who used Norvelle to send me that lying prophecy. Norvelle even described the man in some detail. He told me that we would be “working together” in a grand career.
While a state government ambitious striver, I looked for Prince Charming among the lawyers and the professional men. Once I entered into ministry, well there were scores of ministers to consider, many who set their eyes upon me. However, a fallen angel took the baton from Norvelle and revealed to me in a dream that since I was entering into addiction, recovery and prison ministry, my soul mate was a felon in recovery, who had become a born again Christian. So I married not one, but TWO drug addict felons.
While holding on to my last husband and trying to have a child in my late 50’s, the Lord spoke and said, “both of your husbands were sent to you by the devil to destroy you.”
So while I stood there in 2005 with the divorce papers in my hand, I got “un-stuck” from being stupid, quite happy that I did not have a child at the age of 58!!!.
Here is a tidbit of info that could help you from “gettin stuck.”
Just because you are attractive and you have sexual desire, and you believe that anything you ask God for He will provide simply because YOU want it, remember me. The bible says that it is not good for a man to be alone and that he should have a wife. The bible does not say the same for a woman. You, Sistah and Sister can be alone.
When I was young and dumb, I could not even think of being without a man. It was too heavy a thought for me back then. But now that I have 40 years to look back over,I was always alone anyway, with the Lord I have survived, became wise, and I am filled with peace and joy WITHOUT a man!!! LOL. I do my own thing, Gurl!!! lol. Cook and clean when I feel like it. In fact, I have a housekeeper who cleans for ME!
I don’t unpack no man’s baggage today. I don’t knock YOU if you have a good man, My Sister. I say, right on to you! I am not speaking to you. I am speaking to the one who has been putting her life on hold in God, waiting for Mr. Right. Honey, the devil plans to send you “Mr. Wrong!”
If you have something to do for the Lord, don’t let the devil suggest to you that you can’t serve Jesus Christ of Nazareth without a partner. It is a lie from hell.
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Thank you for the words of wisdom. This is very encouraging. I’m glad that you learned from your experiences and that you have a close relationship with the Lord. A very sincere post.