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Recognizing Manipulation Techniques: “Cherry Picking the Evidence”
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by Carol A. Davis
In religion, leaders will often use “logical fallacies,” logically flawed arguments, to persuade and manipulate churchgoers into doing what they want. According to Wikipedia, “A fallacy is incorrect argument in logic and rhetoric resulting in a lack of validity, or more generally, a lack of soundness.”
A very common fallacy used is called “Cherry-picking the Evidence (also called anecdotal evidence, confirmation bias, biased sample, and proof by example), “… it is the act of pointing to individual cases or data that seem to confirm a particular position, while ignoring a significant portion of related cases or data that may contradict that position.”
Here’s an example:
Yeah, I’ve read the health warnings on those cigarette packs and I know about all that health research, but my brother smokes, and he says he’s never been sick a day in his life, so I know smoking can’t really hurt you.
Here is an example of one that was often used at a church I used to attend. They were always pushing members to tithe and “sow more seed” to get that “hundred-fold return.” Often they would have a member stand up before the church to give their testimony of how they finally decided to give tithing a try, and directly after, something really good happened to them. Maybe they received a big settlement they had been waiting on for a long time, received a promotion at work, received a check in the mail that they hadn’t been expecting, got approved for a house or car loan they should not have been eligible for with their credit rating, and things of that nature.
These testimonies would have everyone wanting to give more, because they thought if they did, the same would happen to them. The fact was, for every member who’d had an experience like that, there were many more who had been faithful in tithing and giving offerings for years, but never experienced any kind of windfall or dramatic change in their financial situation. But those people were not going to be asked to testify about it in front of the church, so you weren’t going to hear those stories. They showed you the evidence they wanted you to see and excluded what they didn’t want you to see.
Don’t be fooled by leaders who cherry pick evidence. Anecdotes alone are not enough to support a claim.
Sources:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fallacies
The Spirit of Jezebel Is A Personality Flaw
19 Saturday Nov 2011
THE SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL IS A PERSONALITY FLAW
Paul taught the Galatians that witchcraft and idolatry are “works of the flesh.” A work of the flesh is simply a character flaw of the old sin nature BEFORE Christ that lingers on if the person does not submit him or herself to the cross. To submit to the cross is to allow the Holy Spirit to progressively break you in both your personality and your character traits.So what does this mean, exactly. Does it mean that demons are not involved in a “work of the flesh?” Absolutely not. Witchcraft and idolatry are demonic practices. What it DOES mean is that people who have witchcraft in them as a work of the flesh—a personality flaw— are more susceptible to demonic influence, particularly religious demons and devils.
I have witnessed too many manifestations of evil spirits in ALL of the works of the flesh, so clearly there are two definitions of witchcraft and idolatry. Where a work of the flesh is a personality type that is predisposed to demonic involvement, the actual act of witchcraft and idolatry are demonic practices. When demons are looking for “human workers” to implement their agenda, they target people who already have witchcraft and idolatry built into their persona as “a work of the flesh.”Along these lines, the witchcraft demon is attracted to a person with a soul that is predisposed to the three (3) “P”s of position, prestige and power. Those who wish to dominate, to acquire fame and prominence, can become a safe haven for the witchcraft/control demon.
In such cases, the captive’s own personality will be a secure place in which demons of a similar nature will be able to hide and secretly function. This is because no one will suspect that the captive’s ambitious striving for control and domination is demonic because the captive has continued to demonstrate over time a steady pattern that propels them to seek power. Consequently, everyone just assumes that the captive is simply being true to his nature or character and therefore, doesn’t have a demon. The witchcraft demon will also hide within weaker personalities.
For example, there are those who wear a facade of false humility, who appear to be very self-effacing and passive. They call themselves “helpful and tactful.” They court a person in leadership, pretending to be a supportive helper. Yet , deep within his or her soul is a striving to “be somebody.” I am reminded of the Bette Davis movie of the 50’s called “All About Eve.” Our generation calls them “suck ups” or “behind kissers/” They appear to idolize there leader when in fact, they want to replace the one they pretend to emulate. People with this kind of soul will offer up many testimonies of their inadequacies and their lack of ambition, yet when confronted, they will show in their actions that they are not at all convinced of their own unworthiness.
In fact, when there is even a minor concern or question about their actions or motives in a particular situation, they will become extremely defensive and resentful. If others show a tendency to take their self-belittling attitude and recriminations seriously, a seething anger may erupt that is out of balance and extreme. For instance, while the so-called “humble” will proclaim their unworthiness, a witchcraft demon will cause them to make great demands for consideration and admiration from others. The witchcraft spirit will rise up and expose itself in these “low key” people, presenting a strong unwillingness to accept even the slightest degree of criticism.
You will find many people like this among professing Christians. They are passive on the outside but inside, they are seething, ravenous wolves who will use a soft, humble demeanor and manner as a weapon to bring others down. Repressed anger and envy has opened passive-aggressive people to a religious demon. In such cases, passivity masquerades as humility or “niceness.”. The inner hostilities are hidden from view by a veneer of a pretended politeness, feigned fair play and an appearance of good fellowship. This “front” is a coverup used in subtle ways to move against perceived enemies in an effort to shame others with their “nice” behavior. The facade consists of pretenses, hidden fears and some genuine caring mixed in with an ability to make YOU look bad in comparison to THEM.
Here is a quote from “Faces of the Religious Demon:”
One of the many motives of a religious demon is “to kill the prophets of God.” Religious demons will seek those by nature who have a jealous, envious spirit, hostile and rebellious to all spiritual authority. Like a shark or a snake, these captives can be most cleverly vicious and dangerous, particularly to those who are called into the fivefold ministry. For example, these captives will circle the lives of others within the congregation, looking for teachable, fleeceable, controllable disciples of his or her own. For those with a religious demon like to birth disciples unto themselves, disciples that will eat a false doctrine from their tables. Toward this end, some of these captives will seek out others who are in rebellion, yet who are weak, wounded, or those who are already in conflict with their spiritual leaders authority.”
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The spirit of Jezebel is a personality flaw that religious demons find conducive to use to attack a man or a woman of God. Like Judas, their end is the way of destruction. The religious demon will ultimately destroy its host or hostess.
Pride in oneself, or holding esteem in Jesus Christ by Minister Nydia
15 Tuesday Nov 2011
- The devil’s deception was broken in my life because I am quick to admit to error and I am not a people pleaser.
Facebook is a place where everyone wants to teach and be heard and few want their followers to know that they don’t know very much. Rebellion and belligerence is very apparent in their various posts which portrays a rebellious spirit. Since rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, many facebook teachers are in the hands of the enemy and God has turned some of them over to strong delusion.
There are some teachers on fb that have actually put people in bondage with their teachings. I won’t call any names but the truth is that their pride keeps them from being teachable. The enemy loves pride because deception is made easy when we think more highly of ourselves than we ought to think. I am not an advocate of the world’s self esteem teaching that has been adopted by the religious world. Self esteem as defined by the world is when the world has high regards for you. You are accepted, found to be worthy and considered competent. In other words, worldly self esteem is rooted in what others think of you. And for this reason, those who seek worldly favor will compromise to obtain and sustain the world’s approval. Christians of this persuasion find that they are always trying to fit in and in so doing, they disobey the Lord’s will to please others.
I have purposed and established in my heart that my self esteem is found in Jesus Christ. The Lord is the only one I need to please because I love truth. When the motives of the heart are not pure, truth will be hidden. To be pure is to be clear, articulate, unclouded understanding. Not confused, covered up or clandestine. When something is not pure, it is defiled. To defile is to contaminate or to pollute. When the heart is not pure, then Satan‘s job is easy because defilement has come from within US, usually because of pride. For pride begins with what we say in our hearts and what we believe in our minds. Jesus linked pride to adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy and foolishness. (Mark 7:20-22) A proud mind is not pure because it thinks, feels and behaves in ways that suggest that we think too highly of ourselves.
Pride, self esteem and vanity deny and conceal the truth. These 3 traits will pull you away from the Lord’s will by quenching and grieving the Holy Spirit and your spirit will become blocked from God’s revelation about what is to come. Pride is also PHONY. Nothing real about it because it puts forth a facade or an act. Pride will cause you to deny your feelings, and pretend so much that you even fool yourself. But the devil is not fooled. He knows when you are “fronted” before him in your effort to appear to be in control, putting forth that lie when you routinely boast that you are blessed by God. As you over compensate, pride will prevent you from admitting that you need help and therefore the enemy can use your pride to block you from crucial resources.
The proud religious person must ALWAYS appear to be knowledgeable and therefore he or she will never admit to not knowing or understanding a verse of scripture, because they are concerned that others will think them stupid and so they will even lie to cover up their ignorance or their weakness as they hide the truth to protect their religious image. Such people are already in the hands of a religious demon. Pride goeth before a fall!
A proud person is not wise either. They make stupid, even costly mistakes. As vanity is excessive pride, a vain person’s conceit will bring sure destruction for self deception is an open doorway to failure. Proud people :
- are outraged when others they that they are superior to them
- are defensive, always justifying themselves
- are critical in their efforts to tear down others to build themselves up
- will hunger for prestige by seeking praise and approval from others
- adopt the ways of those they are trying to please.
- make EVERYTHING personal.
- will live in the past and hunger for “the good old days.”
To the proud I declare that the world did not create you. The world did not redeem you. When you justify yourself before men, you establish them as your lord with authority and you enable the enemy to deceive you. Remember. God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.
If you are too proud to admit that you have been worshipping the fake Jesus, you are trapped in a pit of religion. There is help available. Come join our facebook group. Either comment in this post or send a message to www.facebook.com/pamela.sheppard.911
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PROFILE OF A CONTROL FREAK Part 3
25 Tuesday Oct 2011
Control freaks are masked in Christian hypocrisy.
Normal strivings for power in a believer are motivated by a sincere desire to be used by God to deliver those in the kingdom of this world so that they might enter the kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ of Nazareth. What distinguishes normal inclinations from obsessions is that demonic striving for power is often rooted in fear, hatred and feelings of inferiority. A passive-aggressive control freak wears a phony mask.
Let’s bring it down home to where we all live. Racism is a cultural factor that involves hatred and fear. . When the predominant culture is in fear of losing its power and even worse, becoming extinct, demons of fear, hatred and pride conjoin with the witchcraft demon to control, dominate and suppress those of another race or culture. Then there are those who feel insecure mentally and emotionally who strive for power as a means to protect themselves from anxiety and from a feeling of helplessness.
The religious demon is also attracted to a soul that feels very insignificant. Those who have been consistently oppressed will develop a rigidity and an unbalanced “super strength” which makes them think and act as if they can master any situation in their own power. Such a person will pretend that he is leaning and trusting on the Lord’s power by spouting scripture like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”, yet within his soul he considers any weakness as a disgrace and he is steeped in pride. For example, he judges other saints as being weak, when in reality, he himself feels weak and insignificant. This is fertile ground for demons and devils because they can use the captive to intimidate the weaker brethren and to cause the control freak to feel condemned. When the control freak feels condemn, WATCH OUT FOLK! The ruling entity will cause the control freak to despise himself when he has fallen. When the control freak despises himself, EVERYBODY is a target!
The control freak will demand to know every detail of even the most insignificant situations. When he or she has not been informed of EVERYTHING, extreme agitation sets it which a passive-aggressive control freak will be skilled at hiding from others. People with this character flaw can appear to be extremely generous. No one may even notice his desire to dominate and control because the captive is so subtly manipulative. Usually in such cases, a lying demon is involved also. People who appear to be submissive and giving will surprise you with how manipulative they can be. For example, when you righteously confront them with issues that are important to YOU , they avoid the issue at hand by simply responding with counter accusations, whether they be true or not. All confrontation, no matter how small or insignificant, causes them to perceive you as THE ENEMY.
Secular psychoanalysts would agree that constant striving for superiority or “one upsmanship” is at the center of the narcissistic personality, forming a stronghold that is very difficult to shake or even to weaken. The question to as is “What is at the root of the constant striving?” In some cases, it is an unconscious sense of inferiority. Such people are in a perpetual search for something that will make them feel more personally competent and they get a temporary satisfaction in dominating others by outshining them.
Elder Jones was of this sort. A dark-skinned African-American, Elder Jones was born and raised in the segregated south. Too many times did she expose the fact that she felt inferior because of her skin color. So she compensated. In the denomination, Elder Jones became the FIRST woman regional administrator in 150 years. So once she obtained this noteworthy position, why would she unnecessarily place herself in competition with her immediate predecessor, and determine that she would outshine him? Why would she continue to try to outdo all of the ministers that she now had oversight power over? It made no logical sense.
For example, a church lost its pastor in the middle of the year and a temporary appointment was in order. Elder Jones had 5 ministers available to her to pick from. Did she select one of them? No. She selected herself, even though she already was pastoring a church when it is the normal policy for someone in her position to relinquish the role of pastor entirely. So she became the pastor of not one church but two, also remained the regional administrator, with 10 other churches and pastors under her watch care. Once she appointed herself pastor of the second church, the members passively rebelled by not attending on Sunday mornings, a mistake on their part. Elder Jones used her power as the right hand of the Bishop to recommend that this 100 year old church be closed and the Bishop acted upon her recommendation. The church is NO MORE!
Passive-aggressive people can be very dangerous in uncountable ways. The truth will set them free but the truth hurts them to much. 
Pride causes people to not want to admit that they are suffering from feelings of inferiority that cause them to “lord it over” others. This is a most serious situation. Not only are these types at risk of perdition, when they obtain positions of power and authority, they are dangerous. Control freaks are particularly dangerous because they DO have a form of godliness because they behavior is eccessively polite, and they are very skilled at feigned poise in their strivings for position and power. The central issue of a control freak is domination and control. Elder Jones strong desire for power is masked by her being “a good person.” So she uses her good character to be in a position of unchallenged prominence and prestige. The dangerous element of the woman is that she feels herself to be surrounded on all sides by competition for the ascendency that she herself craves. As a result, her strong need to outshine or excel over others, to outsmart them, to make them subservient to her wishes play a crucial role in her control freak style. For example, every situation or interaction with her is viewed from the standpoint of “can I top his or her performance?” or “is this person trying to make ME look bad? What can I do to protect myself?.”
Well she can cut your spiritual head off!
Today is my 30th anniversary as a minister. Take my word for it. Churches are overrun with Elder Jones personality types, both male and female–people who need deliverance counseling. If you are in their spiritual prison, the time to break out and escape to freedom is NOW! Help is available at 518-477-5759.
PROFILE OF A CONTROL FREAK Part 2
25 Tuesday Oct 2011
Consider this real life case of a control freak with a name change. This is a woman who once was my late pastor’s wife back in the ’80s. In fact, it was under her husband that I was licensed to preach 30 years ago today, Oct. 25, 1981. I’ve had the opportunity to study Sister Black at least 20 years.
Sister Black is a well known, beloved, influential lay leader in her denomination for decades.
Much could be written about Sister Black. Prior to his death, Rev. Black was in a constant but subtle battle with Sister Black to rule his own congregation in his own despotic way. Rev. Black did everything he could to block his humble acting wife from taking over. Sister Black was always the hurt one, portraying herself as suffering for the Lord, by not being understood by her coldblooded husband. She fooled me for at least a decade, until I started seriously observing her. I could do so because we spent time together in Christian service and on a quasi-social level.
Once Rev. Black died, at the center of Sis. Black’s thoughts was usually not the Lord Himself but her own spiritual journey. Her priority in conversation is most often turned to her newly appointed pastor and his particular approach to leading “her” church and how the members have to seek counsel from “her” because of what the pastor is incapable of providing. Since his appointment to Sis. Black’s church she and Rev. Johnson have been persistently battling each other over various church projects.
The warfare seems to be centered in a battle between new members and those who have been members prior to Rev. Johnson’s appointment. For example, Sis. Black was co-chairing a project with another member and Rev. Johnson has been avoiding Sister Black and solely communicating with the other co-chair. Now these are Sis Black’s exact words: “Isn’t the Lord’s sense of humor so wonderful? The co-chair fell and broke her leg and can no longer function in the job. Now Rev, Johnson HAS to speak to ME bevause the other co-chair is out of commission. Isn’t the Lord grand?”
If this is not an example of a neurotic control freak, then I don’t know what is. I wonder if the sick thoughts to FORCE Rev. Johnson to speak with her directly did not cause the co-chair’s accicent. Why? Because Sis. Black sincerely believed that God broke the leg of one of His children so as to force Rev. Johnson to have to communicate solely with HER! This is a reprobate mind if I ever saw one yet Sis. black believes that she is a part of the remnant church. Admittedly, her pastor DOES have his problems, but Sis. Black used her ecstatic, kundalini spirit type of experiences as a weapon to contend with him. For example, she will appear to be completely consumed or “caught up” in the Holy Ghost—faling back and wailing loudly. Others respond by jumping up from the pews to either restrain her or to hold her up to keep her from falling and hurting herself or those who may be sitting near her.
One of her outstanding spiritual fits occurred as the service was being brought to a close. While the congregation was singing the doxology, suddenly Sis. Black fell “under the anointing.” In other words, she fell backwards into an euphoric state, a form of being slain in the spirit. Most of the congregants left the sanctuary, but a group of 10 or more women stood by her and ministered to her for another 45 minutes. Sis Black retorted, “Rev. Johnson didn’t even stick around to minister to me. Well, too bad, we all got caught up in the glory cloud and we had ourselves another wonderful worship service, praise the Lord! Pastor just went into his office, slammed the door and sulked.” My question is, “How was Sis. Black even conscious or focused on what Rev. Johnson did if she was “so caught up in the spirit.”?!
The bottom line is that Sis. Black is a religious control freak that desires a pastor–any pastor— to humble himself to HER so that she controls every aspect of church life. She had every opportunity to enter ministry herself, but the devil likes to use her to keep other pastors in bondage. Her “opponent,” Rev. Johnson is one of the denomination’s most popular sermonizers, yet he is a homosexual, raising adopted male children as a “single parent.” The late Rev. Black was a cold, lifeless pastor who hated bible study and who restrained anyone who seemed to be genuinely saved. He was also an adulterer, almost understandable— living with a woman like Sis. Black.
The visible church has several of these kinds of people in them. The true story of Sis. Black, Rev. Black and Rev. Johnson is typical in the church world where I served as a minister for 25 years. Today-October 25-is my 30th year in ministry. The good news is that the organized church is not the Body of Christ. Therefore, if you desire to come out of the bondage of religion, you can do so. The Lord will not work in the organized church in its present
condition, so you need to commit yourself to become free. Judgment has come to the household of faith because God’s people are unable to repent. Control freaks of this kind are completely out of touch with who they really are and therefore they can not even approximate normality because to their spiritual strangeness has been accepted by them to be normal. If you want to be set free to grow in Christ, then the phone lines are open at 518-477-5759.
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